Back in 2012, I took it upon myself to climb Mount Kilimanjaro. I’m an avid hiker and occasional over-achiever so I set my sights on this suitably lofty target. I booked a 6-day hiking trail, did my research, upped my physical training and felt reasonably ready as I arrived at Machame Gate with a bag full of provisions.

Barely 3 hours in, I quickly realised I was not ready! Fatigue and overwhelm had set in by lunch time of Day 1! The journey up this mighty mountain taught me several things about myself, and I often tap into these memories whenever I encounter difficulties. We all receive teachable moments through our various experiences - I try my best to look for the lesson and absorb it the first time.

5 things I learnt about myself  

Fulfilling my potential requires a good balance of audacious stretch goals alongside ‘safe’ in-reach goals

The stretch goals require me to operate outside my comfort zone and really push myself: success is not guaranteed but the risk is worthwhile. The in-reach goals build up my confidence and move my life forward at a steady space. Mt Kilimanjaro was a stretch goal that took everything in me to ascend. The other trails I had completed up until that point gave me the self-belief to aim higher.

Preparation, passion and purpose are at the heart of achieving big

I planned well in terms of physical training, getting the right equipment and clothing, and choosing a suitable route operated by a trustworthy tour company. I was passionate about taking a hobby to the next level and experiencing a unique place in Africa. I was also fuelled by testing my physical limits and aiming to raise money for charity through this endeavour. Without preparation, passion and purpose lack the foundation to manifest. Without passion or purpose, even the best laid plans will not be sustained long enough to flourish beyond a certain basic level. 

I learnt how to control the narrative in my own mind

I was a solo traveller amongst a group of 5 other hikers. They were all very pleasant and encouraging, but the initial dejection I felt could only be remedied by my own self-talk. Until this trip, I hadn’t grasped how much my thoughts and what I believe about myself mattered. I learnt to encourage myself repeatedly, to be positive and to look for the good amidst my discomfort. I smile when I read quotes like, “I can. I will. Watch me.” When you’re feeling down, such simple encouragements can have a big impact. 

The journey and the destination are both important to me

I walked at my own pace, often taking longer than the rest of the group to reach camp. At first I felt like a straggler but I had to be honest with myself about what was appropriate for me. However, my attitude adjustment helped me enjoy the journey so much more! I revelled in the changing scenery, from lush forest to barren stretches of black volcanic rock lightly blanketed by snow. There is nothing else like it, and for those 6 days, being mindful of every moment and observant made all the difference to the quality of my experience.

I view giving up as a failure only if I don’t give my best

In the end, I didn’t make it all the way to the top as I decided to turn back during the final ascent. Having relied on grit since the first day, it took me being at my weakest to realise how strong I am. Although I was initially disappointed, I was certain I was physically incapable of continuing and that is what made me comfortable with my decision. I don’t always get what I want but I certainly achieved a lot by trying my best. Since this trip, I have learnt to rest my conscience on this simple question: am I doing my best? If so, I generally tend to be at peace with whatever outcomes I get.

Striving for big stretch goals like this one activated a belief that has remained with me since: I can and will achieve more than I imagine possible if I would just apply myself to something I am truly passionate about. It’s the sort of statement that is easier to say to others than to apply to one’s own life! I’m seeing it work in my favour, and hope others get to feel the same spark in whichever area of their lives they may find it. Be willing to journey through the challenging terrain outside your comfort zone, and you might just find something beautiful.